last week, i was at the hair salon, and my stylist is gay. he's older than me, his family has plenty of issues, etc. he has all of these psychological reasons as to why he could be gay. he recently split up with his boyfriend of several years, and was kind of quiet... until... another little gay boy (17-ish) comes into the salon. my stylist got all excited and said that i had to meet this kid because he was "the gayest person [i'd] ever meet" and was laughing about this kid's purse (no, not man bag) and wanted to strike up a good conversation so i could hear him speak. which led me to asking my stylist how people can be so totally gay and others not. i said it's like they go down the list of sterotypes and check off each one:
- flamboyant
- wear pink
- do nails
- carry purse
- wear glitter
- "limp wrist"
- distinctive ass-swinging walk
- lisp
- etc
- etc
so my stylist, who is not "in the closet" by any means, but more along the lines of "is he or isn't he" says, "i just am who i am." he thinks a bit longer, and still can't even figure out how to lisp. he agrees with me that they are trying to compensate for a lack of love or something, or rebelling, or trying to really show "how gay" and "in your face" they can be. we still don't get it.
7 comments:
Meagsn, wait, are you saying it's nature or nurture? I thought you were leaning to nurture. I'm I reading it wrong?
Dude, it is so nature. I think if a person is gay, it's like having brown eyes or brown hair, etc.
You met my brother who is gay. He's ALWAYS known. he told me at 10 that he was gay because that's how he felt. I don't think people chose to be gay or chose to be straight.
He, who is 16, just like that 17 year old kid who came into the salon, acted flamboyant because they are young and acting out a stereotype. They're over doing it because they are silly teenagers. You know, just like I wore hippie dresses and birks and you wore giant pants.
OOOHHHHHHHHH! That was a good article! I see now, sorry. Ok, you agree with the article? Right?
My brother popped out gay. As a little kid he LOVED Dorothy from the Wizard of Oz. He begged every year to be Dorothy for halloween.
I really feel being gay isn't a choice. I feel bad for homosexuals who are made to feel it is wrong and pushed to change.
Your hair dresser sounds cool.
wasn't that a great article? see, i was talking to my stylist (m) about your brother, too since it was just after i met him. this boy (z)and your brother (t) were so much alike it was kind of freaky. (m) said we should hook them up.
and fyi, i wore hippie skirts & birks, too. :)
Great read Megz.
Both Aimee and myself have had a lot of exposure to the gay community through family, friends, co-workers, etc... and one thing we've learned is that they are who they are. It's not a "learned" behavior, they just are.
But the lisping thing has always got me, it's not all gay men who do it, but it's ONLY gay men who do it. I think it's mostly the overly-feminine types that do it.
I should get Aimee to comment, because she's got the inside track on the whole lesbian side of things (no, she's not a lesbian, but she's lived with plenty of them).
Off topic, I used to be a tree-hugging hippy who wore Birkenstocks and, get this, hemp clothing. Oh, and patchouli oil. I was a full-blown hippy in high school and college. I'm actually thinking of reverting back to that because it was an easier style to manage.
jeremy, we all know that your wife is in lesbians annonymous. the first time that i met her she smacked me on the butt and asked me if i had any flannel shirts that she could borrow.
even more OT, when i was 19, i worked at a school and was still washing my hair with hemp shampoo, and wore patchouli... until one day rumours were flying that they were going to drug test. i was totally clean, but i think they were associating the patchouli with something else. oops.
I used to subscribe to "High Times".
Beat that.
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